The Wild, Wonderful Dancing Nymph
There’s a special kind of woman who loves to move in rhythm with the music of the world. She’s abundantly feminine, and when she’s happy, wonderfully radiant. Attuned to the deep currents of life, she uncovers hidden meaning and connection. Keenly intuitive, she divines the truth about people and relationships.
In the KanerosTM Personality Type Framework, she’s known as a Dancing Nymph. The Dancing part of her designation denotes her love of rhythmic movement. And yes, like a Nymph in the ancient myths, she tends to be frisky.
She’s Shae, the clever courtesan in Game of Thrones; Karen, the sultry cop in Out Of Sight; Annie, the loopy baseball fan in Bull Durham. She’s the girl on the cheerleading squad, the flirtatious math whiz, the woman teaching yoga, the camgirl taking joy in her performance.
The Dancing Nymph is very feminine.
Women of the Dancing Nymph type evolved to give and receive lots of love, affection, sex, and attention. In humanity’s hunter-gatherer past, they bound larger bands together with strong emotional ties. Because the Feminine is about relationship, the Dancing Nymph channels more Feminine energy than any other type of woman.
Relationship, sensitivity, and flow—these basic aspects of the Feminine are the Dancing Nymph’s particular strengths:
- Personal relationships are important to her, and she’s good at forming and maintaining them. Her friendships are more intimate than most, her romances more passionate.
- She’s very sensitive to emotional undertones, so many Dancing Nymphs serve as counselors and confidantes. People seek her out to talk about personal issues.
- Her spirit flows like the water she loves to be around. Water is a symbol of the subconscious, the source of desire and insight, and she “swims” comfortably in this unseen realm.
In ancient times, women of her type were considered to be in close touch with the divine, and they were accorded special places as consorts, oracles, and temple dancers. One of the roles they served was healing the hearts and minds of soldiers traumatized by war. The soldiers’ wives would often send them to the dancers to be restored by their touch, love, and infusions of their powerful Feminine energy.
She’s frequently misunderstood.
American culture celebrates her in the sexy, mediagenic form of a Beyonce or Kim Kardashian, but mostly she’s misunderstood. One wag expresses the prevailing attitude toward women of her type when he recommends that men avoid “redheads, strippers, hairdressers…”
Indeed, men often get the wrong idea when interacting with her. She exudes sexual energy, and loves to flirt, which can overwhelm men who aren’t mature and centered. If one of them makes a clumsy advance, and she deflects it, she may be called a “tease.”
She’s misunderstood in other ways as well:
- Her Feminine energy flows so strongly that it can become chaotic. When she expresses that in mood swings, lashing out, breaking down, etc, this gets her labeled “crazy.”
- She needs to give and receive lots of love, and when she can’t do that she may try to fill the void with booze, food, sex, drugs. Some read this as “self-destructive.”
- If her Feminine energy is especially intense, she can make uncannily accurate assessments of people and predictions of events, which in the past made her feared as a “witch.”
She thrives when provided with structure.
The Dancing Nymph is often told that she needs to “calm down” and “get it together.” That’s misguided. What she typically wants is a strong lead so she can “dance” with abandon. Put more prosaically, she’s at her best when there’s a lot of Masculine structure in her world.
With her high flow of Feminine energy, the Dancing Nymph likes having Masculine structure around to smooth it out. Even if she can provide that structure herself, she doesn’t like to do it, because it drains her. So, she seeks the structure she needs to feel secure through one of the basic aspects of the Feminine: relationship.
Marilyn Monroe, who channeled a tremendous amount of Feminine energy, provided a good example of this. While she was always put-together in public, her house was a mess, and sometimes she’d go on hours-long crying jags. Feeling instinctively that she needed more structure in her life, she went about getting it by playing to her strengths in relationship.
Unfortunately, she never formed the right relationship. Her first husband, the playwright Arthur Miller, lacked the rock-solid presence a man needs to handle a woman of her powerful energy. Her second husband, slugger Joe DiMaggio, was a star in his own right, and that didn’t work for her, either. She needed a strong frame to her beautiful picture, a man who liked her being the center of attention.
A Dancing Nymph who did form the right relationship was actress Blythe Danner. She didn’t marry another artist, as Marilyn did. Instead, she married a director whose job involved providing artists with the structure they needed to do good work. She and TV producer/director Bruce Paltrow lived a happy life together, and both had long, successful careers.
She needs a strong Masculine presence.
In her primary relationship, the Dancing Nymph needs a man who channels as much Masculine energy as she does Feminine. That’s why she tends to gravitate toward “bad boys” and “outlaws” who exhibit the masculine quality of independence.
To be happy, however, she must be with a man who channels his Masculine in a positive way. In the words of Kate Rose, she needs “a goddamn warrior,” but he must be, in the words of David Deida, a Warrior of Love.
Settling down with a pleasant but unassertive “nice guy” doesn’t work for her. That sort of man lacks the cojones to handle a woman of her spirit, and if she makes such a match, she either resigns herself to her unfulfilled fate, or looks elsewhere for chemistry and romance. As she’s the sort of woman commonly referred to as a “girly girl,” she’ll find them with a “manly man.”
The Dancing Nymph can suffuse a room with vitality and a sense of possibility, making it a place where people feel optimistic and new opportunities are considered. A leader who seeks her guidance will make good decisions, and a culture that exalts her will be vibrant. And the man who’s strong and savvy enough to make her his woman will be a happy man indeed.